Dating

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Dating! Does this mean boyfriend and girlfriend, one fun date, hanging out, marriage, and sexual relations?
I think that this has become more of a debate in the last several years. When my parents and grandparents talk about dating, it consisted of going out with a variety of different people. They would simply ask someone out to a fun night playing games, going out to eat, or talking. There was no expectation because of the date. There was no commitment to take things forward or that there had to be a second date. After dating many people, they would come to find one person they would like to date exclusively. This consisted of continuing to go on dates to get to know that person more. If things worked out this would lead to courtship, marriage, and a family.
Now days, all these steps are combined into one or are not even taken. I think one main thing about dating now days, it that it is not happening. In my high school, the word dating meant that you were boyfriend or girlfriend. People would usually just hangout, which meant a bunch of girls and a bunch of boys, doing things together. Than if they wanted to get to know someone better they would text them until they thought they were ready to be called boyfriend and girlfriend. Often times their was not even a date within the mix of it all.
I believe that dating is something that we should make a top priority. Taking certain steps, one by one, into eventual marriage is important. This starts with dating. In high school I went to a couple dances and on a couple dates. I was able to get to know a variety of people and spend one on one time with each one. This gave me an opportunity to come to know them on a more personal level then by just hanging out. I decided that I wanted to wait to get a boyfriend or date someone exclusively until after high school. This helped to be able to go on dates without having an expectation for either person. Now that I am in college I have chosen to do the same. However, I have found that most people have turned away from dating even in the culture up here. Often people will hangout, get to know each a little, and then go to exclusive dating. They have an expectation that a date is a commitment.
I believe that dating is an important step in preparing for marriage.

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